How to build yourself into someone who doesn't need porn anymore


#1

I cannot recall ever seeing someone successfully overcome an addiction to pornography by ONLY practicing NoFap - meaning, counting days of abstinence and trying to outlast the urges. In every successful case that I’ve seen (including myself), people have succeeded by abstaining from PMO while also putting serious effort into developing themselves in another substantial way.

For this reason, don’t get too caught up in your NoFap days or become disillusioned if you relapse. If you’ve been addicted to porn for years, one relapse doesn’t really matter. It’s a sign that you have work to do, nothing more. Maintaining your focus on building yourself up in a substantial and noticeable way is much more important than any single relapse. Don’t lose sight of the overarching goal. Don’t let your disappointment over a single relapse distract you from what really matters: Consistently improving the overall quality of your life.

Maybe you’re an outlier I’ve never seen before, but you probably won’t have much success with NoFap unless you start changing your life into something more positive. Sitting still and trying to grit out NoFap days without adding any additional value to your life probably isn’t going to work.

There are proven examples of where you can focus to raise the standard of your life; cold showers to build self-discipline, making your bed every morning to instill a lifestyle of cleanliness and organization, positive affirmations and consistent mindfulness/meditation to develop mental clarity and strength, physical fitness to setup healthy channels for dopamine release and noticeable life-change… You don’t need to keep your choices limited to this list, these are just examples of things that WILL work.

Porn addiction is a symptom, not a root cause. The root cause is likely insecurity, buried pain, anxiety, fear of the future/being alone, and an overall lack of contentment with life. Accept where you are but don’t stay there. Embrace life and start building yourself into someone you love and respect. When you love your life, you won’t feel the need to hide from it with compulsive and often self-destructive behaviors.


#2

This perspective is so refreshing, interesting and assuring brother. Thank you for this.
More power to you and anyone reading this seeking out of this vicious cycle of PMO.