Sexual desire is part of who we are, but our essence cannot be reduced to it. We are more than a longing to love and be loved.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s okay to feel aroused. It’s okay to have thoughts or images that feel ego-dystonic. Having them does not define who you are, acting on them does.
In the midst of this chaos, it’s easy to believe that the frustration and repression are too much to bear, that we are doomed to remain trapped in an endless loop.
But I like to think it’s the opposite. No matter how dark things get, we still have a choice: a choice to live a life of freedom and long-term fulfillment, rather than one of short-term escapes from a prison we built with our own hands.
Everything comes with a cost. Keeping your desires under control is no easy feat, it’s uncomfortable, demanding, and often lonely. But it’s worth it.
Everyone wants to quit. Everyone wants to stay in control. So why wait? Why not quit now? Why not make a choice?
What do you choose?
