No PMO War XXXI

Day 21, how is everyone feeling?

Today is my first day here.. in my personal no fap journey is Day 3 today. I joined in NO PMO WAR it will resumes on July 2.. so, what is the activity on NO PMO war? Share Ur thoughts and your knowledge here thanks

Today is my first day here.. in my personal no fap journey is Day 3 today. I joined in NO PMO WAR it will resumes on July 2.. so, what is the activity on NO PMO war? Share Ur thoughts and your knowledge here thanks

Today didn’t start perfectly — I slept in longer than planned. But instead of letting that throw off the whole day, I got up and got moving. Before my first class, I had already knocked out a big chunk of schoolwork. That momentum felt amazing. At the gym, something interesting happened. I saw a girl who — no exaggeration — looked like she was carved out of marble. My brain instantly went into fantasy mode: married life, three kids, white picket fence — all within the first 60 seconds (funny how fast the mind goes). But just then, her boyfriend showed up. And instead of feeling crushed, I heard this quiet voice inside say: "Not yet... but your time is coming." It gave me peace. Instead of chasing a daydream or feeling sorry for myself, I smiled and crushed the rest of my workout. 🧠 Mental Wins Today There were a few battles: I wanted to delay my gym session — I knew that would've meant skipping it entirely. So I went before excuses could settle in. No real PMO urges today, which felt strange… in a good way. Maybe I’m healing. I chose discipline over impulse, again and again. It’s becoming clear: "What feels good now often costs you later. But what costs you now builds you for what's next." 🔋 Energy: 8/10 Thanks to good food, good movement, and good mindset. 🙏 A Spiritual Whisper Had a short chat with my mom about how God waters the flowers only after she’s planted them. It hit me — God often waits for us to act in faith before He moves. I felt that today. Even in small things like choosing the gym first or staying focused on tasks. 🙌 Gratitude Moments That moment of inner peace at the gym, despite the temptation to spiral Nailing a practice exam — clarity under pressure The realization that even "being hungry" is a blessing. Some people don’t have that privilege. Gratitude makes it easier to stay strong. It flips your mindset from “I need more” to “I have enough.” That kills urges at the root. Romans 13:11 “You know what time it is, how it is now the moment for you to wake from sleep. For salvation is nearer to us now than when we first believed.” So wake up. Say no to the short-term. Say yes to the process. Because your time is coming. 💪

🧠 1. Mindset & Intention This morning started slowly — I stayed in bed a bit too long, but I made the intentional choice to go to my class anyway. During the lecture, I already planned my lunch, since I’m currently cutting. I had a clear goal: mandatory class, get some schoolwork done, and hit the gym. School tasks aren’t fully finished, but I still have time tomorrow. 📱 2. Triggers & Thoughts At the gym, I saw a woman in tight leggings and a revealing sports bra. It triggered a small urge, but I let it pass and focused on my workout. Later, she took my spot at the cables while I was talking to someone. Normally, I’d shy away or avoid conflict, but this time I went up to her and said I was still using it. She moved without any attitude. I realized I had judged her based on her outfit, but she was actually kind. This reminded me: every day is filled with small mental battles. Take the electric bike? Or ride the normal one to support my health. Watch something sexual? Or stay clean so I can be confident and authentic with women. Skip the gym? Or push through and build discipline. These are micro-decisions, but they shape your path. 🛡️ 3. Resistance & Victory What helped me today? Keeping the big picture in mind: I want to see a six-pack this summer. I want to be able to talk to a woman with confidence. I want to be a husband and a father one day. Surrendering to instant pleasure only delays (or destroys) that vision. Every “yes” to temptation today is more pain tomorrow. It’s never just one relapse — it’s a spiral. That’s why staying strong matters. 🔋 4. Energy & Self-Care Energy was okay today — I was tired and stressed about a bridge possibly being up, which could make me late. But then I saw the backup bridge had just been repaired. That gave me peace. I still pushed myself to the gym despite being tired. If I’d delayed it until after dinner, it wouldn’t have happened. 💬 5. God & Spiritual Growth I had a small spiritual moment: the wind cleared a foul smell from a nearby pit — a random but refreshing moment of peace. Also, I watched a video with 5 steps to defeat lust — something that felt like a clear answer from God to my current struggle. I’m thankful for that wisdom. 🙏 6. Gratitude Today I was grateful for: The wind that blew the stench away (small, but real) That I still made it to the gym even when tired A helpful video about how to defeat lust Gratitude helps me face urges and frustration without giving in. I don’t need to “escape” through PMO — I’ve already received so much from God. If I stay faithful, more good things will come in time. 🎯 7. Tomorrow’s Intention I have an important school task due and I want to wake up early to finish it. I also want to reduce the dopamine I get from the online world and increase real-life joy. Quote I’m carrying with me: “Genetics load the gun, lifestyle pulls the trigger.” You're not fighting alone. Every small victory matters. Stay consistent. Let’s keep building momentum and choosing the light. 🔥

1. Mindset & Intentions This morning I struggled to get out of bed after gaming late the night before. But I was aware of my main goals: driving practice and finishing some schoolwork. 2. Triggers & Thoughts I had fleeting thoughts like “it would be nice to see a girl in a volleyball outfit,” but they quickly passed. My brain kind of mocked the thought, and I shifted focus immediately. These thoughts come and go like any other, and I don’t stress over them anymore — something I couldn’t do before. 3. Resistance & Victory Every urge was met with a conscious “no.” Mindfulness and remembering the bigger picture helped me stay strong. I see no value in giving in to old habits. 4. Energy & Self-Care Energy was about a 5 today — too little sleep because of gaming. I realize gaming drains the energy I need during the day. I ate well, did sudoku with music, and took a quiet drive, focusing on the road and traffic. 5. Connection with God / Spiritual Growth At one moment, I felt God’s presence clearly. The wind was cold and the sun behind clouds, then suddenly the sun broke through, the wind stopped, and warm sunlight hit my face. When I looked away, the sun hid again and the wind returned. It was a calm, powerful moment. I also felt a gentle push to do my schoolwork today rather than delay it — especially important before driving practice. 6. Gratitude Three things I’m truly thankful for today: Driving lessons with my mom — it’s actually fun, and I don’t know why I delayed it so long The moment with God and the sunlight breaking through the clouds The calming sound of the water fountain in the garden Gratitude helps me face the day happier and with a more positive outlook. 7. What I Take Into Tomorrow Tomorrow I want to reduce dopamine from the online world and get more from real life experiences. The truth I carry with me: “The pain you feel today is the strength you will get tomorrow.”

Today was a mixed bag. I started the day tired and stayed in bed for about 1h45, watching YouTube. I had plans to clean a local space and study — I only managed to clean, not study. At some point, I caught myself rationalizing the urge to look at something sensual just to get an erection — because “it feels good and can’t hurt.” I also felt a strong urge to game. But I recognized that this exact thought process has led me to relapse many times before. So I made the conscious choice to not pursue that urge. Unfortunately, I gave in to gaming. I told myself it would be for 1 hour, but I ended up gaming for 3 hours. My original goal was to avoid it altogether, so that was a bit of a loss. What helped me resist PMO was the pain and fear of becoming a prisoner to porn again. That fear is still very real and serves as a warning light. 🔋 Energy & Self-Care Energy level: 5/10 I went to the gym and made a small but conscious healthy choice: I chose grilled chicken over marinated ribs for the BBQ. 💬 Conversations & God I had a short conversation with my mom about whether I now consider myself Christian or just spiritual. It didn’t go too deep, but it got me thinking. I didn’t feel a strong spiritual moment today, but I want to continue growing. 🙏 Gratitude Three things I was grateful for today: The parasols that saved our BBQ from the rain. The local room is almost fully cleaned out. I have less school work than some classmates. 🎯 Tomorrow's Intention Tomorrow I want to get out of bed even if I’m tired, finish my PowerPoint, my lesson prep, and a good chunk of my reflection paper. 🛡️ Truth to carry Isaiah 6:8 (NIV): Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?” And I said, “Here am I. Send me!” That’s the mindset I want to embody. Even if I feel unworthy, tired, or weak — I want to be available for God to use me. Not ruled by lust or laziness, but led by purpose.

I think there’s a big element that’s often ignored, or rather downplayed, in discussions around no-PMO lately that I would like to get into. What I’m about to say next is NOT an endorsement of PMO, but I want to demonstrate what we’re fighting here. The problem with PMO is that it’s objectively fun. Porn is, by design, a pleasant thing to experience, tailored to pretty much anyone’s “tastes,”, and orgasming is by definition one of the best sensations a person can experience. So with the deck stacked against someone like this, it’s no wonder people find abstinence so fucking difficult. I think this is the piece of the puzzle that’s missing in our arsenals. You feel an urge, but the argument so often devolves into “feel good fun now vs prolonged resistance and discomfort” as a sort of false equivalence. We talk about the “willpower” method and building systems to resist those temptations, but (and this is only my opinion) without acknowledging this core problem with PMO, it’s nearly always a losing battle. Here’s my proposal. You have to admit that porn is both a slow poison and also mad fun. You have to acknowledge that the perceived high of PMO is going to outweigh the isolated small, but incrementally large amount of damage it will do. You have to get your brain to acknowledge that the “it’s okay, I’ll be fine really, I felt okay last time” is a LIE to yourself because your brain just wants what feels good now. It’s not about learning to live with being uncomfortable. It’s about accepting living without what could arguably be called one of your favourite pastimes, because the consequences are too destructive. That is what we’re fighting here. There’s a lesson in how we use language. It’s not that you can’t watch porn. It’s that you DON’T. They’re not urges, they’re cravings. Just like how cigarettes are disastrous for our health but one by itself is unlikely to have any serious effect. they’re so good to smoke, they feel great. If you want to quit smoking, you have to acknowledge that you won’t feel that nicotine rush again (apologies for the metaphor if you’ve never smoked, please don’t try it, it’s such a bad idea). Porn is the same. So next time you’re feeling a craving, just accept that whilst PMO might be fun and exciting, you’re choosing not to have that fun and excitement in service of a higher purpose, and that’s okay. Nofap success is more rewarding, you just have to believe it in those moments where your brain is telling you how much it wants to peek. Stay strong everyone. I believe in you all, even the casualties of this war. YOU GOT THIS.

Hey brothers and sisters, Today I wanted to share a short reflection on how I'm learning to walk in the light — not just by avoiding PMO, but by actively embracing gratitude, honesty, and grace. ☀️ Mindset Check I snoozed a lot this morning and didn’t start the day with a strong intention, but I got up, got ready for school, and something shifted throughout the day. I’ve noticed that I’m starting to live more gratefully, even in small things. I caught myself smiling just because I could take the electric bike to school and because my mom helped me hit my protein goals. Small blessings, big shift. 👀 Triggers At the station, I saw someone with a really attractive body. Normally this would’ve triggered a spiral, but instead I caught the thought and told myself: “Why stare? This won’t help me in class… But hey — I’m grateful I still have a natural instinct. That’s not evil. It just needs direction.” I didn't shame myself or obsess over “forgetting” the thought. I just… smiled at my silliness and moved on. That’s huge progress for me. 🎮 Resisting Old Habits Later I had some free time and almost started gaming. But then I paused and said: “No. Not now. This time is valuable.” I didn’t go straight into schoolwork (still need to improve that), but I did some prep for my youth group (youth movement/scouting ish), which was a step in the right direction. What helped me say no? Gratitude Fear of wasting time Remembering the bigger picture Wanting freedom more than comfort 🍽️ Self-Care I ate clean, sat in the sun, and did a sudoku while listening to reggae. It gave me peace and a moment to just be. Simple but refreshing. 🙏 God & Growth I talked a bit with a friend about my faith (nothing deep, but still something). I told my parents I want to wear a necklace with a cross. No big signs from God today, but I felt a quiet peace throughout the day — like I was being carried even during small setbacks. 💡 Key Insight “Live as children of light. Don’t carry shame in the dark — confess, walk freely, and you’ll fall less.” Even when I messed up before, I felt God telling me: You're not defined by this. Walk in the light. 🙌 Gratitude that Changed My Mood The sun on my face during sudoku Feeling confident driving again after not practicing for a while Taking the electric bike and saving time/effort Gratitude truly helped me resist impulses without even needing to fight hard. 🔥 Takeaway for Tomorrow Less phone time Finish my school task Stay present and thankful Let this verse lead me: "For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light." — Ephesians 5:8 If you're on this journey too: Don’t just fight darkness — turn on the light. Let God’s grace, gratitude, and growth carry you step by step. No shame. Just light. Stay strong warriors. One day at a time. — Child of the Light, Day 3 🕊️